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Over the last few months a lot has been spoken, debated and discussed about -

• Moving On
  
• Closure
• Rebound
  
• Getting Over
• Damaged Goods
• Baggage

Nobody has been able to pin point and actually figure out what is it the terms above actually entail.
How do/does the process(es) work ? How do you know whether you're through or not ? Are we ever ready for any kind of uncertainty ? Does one just forgive and forget ? Does one send out long emails or smses explaining and waiting for a reply ? Or do you send messages/emails and save it in the drafts ? Or do you move to search for greener pastures hoping that they might be able to help you ?
Do you cry ? Do you drink a lot ? Cook, take up salsa classes ? Have a memorial and ask people to talk about their loss ?

We are always looking for answers. Everywhere and in everything around us ! We are never satisfied with the pace at which certain events take place. We are never happy with what we have. Grieving is normal. Yet - we always believe that somewhere and somehow things are never over. Loss of a loved one, a car, a relationship, a marriage - anything !

It's crazy how crazy and frenzied we get trying to search and be on the lookout for something/someone/someplace that will help us feel better and get us back on track. But is that really what we want ?
No !
We want the same person, relationship, car, marriage that we had. We want it all back ! We love our comfort zone ? It makes us happy children. We want love, care, attention and familiarity. We want the same excitement and madness.
But we have to let it go ! Just as we understand that we grow up and move a grade higher as academic years end. Just as we understand that when a plane lands at the airport - the journey has come to an end.

Another loved one, car, relationship and marriage deserves a chance to be adored, loved and cared by you. You deal. You survive. You always do ! You may not learn but you still continue to live.
And, well - If Karma comes and bites you in the bum...that too shall just pass :)

Kya hua tera waada
Woh kasam, woh iraada
 Bhoolega dil jis din tumhe
Woh din zindagi ka aakhri din hoga
 Kya hua tera waada
Woh kasam, woh iraada
 Bhoolega dil jis din tumhe
Woh din zindagi ka aakhri din hoga
Kya hua tera waada
 Yaad hai mujhko, tune kaha tha
Tumse nahin roothenge kabhi
Dil ki tarah se haath mile hain
Kaise bhala chhootenge kabhi
Teri baahon mein beeti har shyaam
Bewafa yeh bhi kya yaad nahin
 Kya hua tera waada
Woh kasam, woh iraada
Bhoolega dil jis din tumhe
Woh din zindagi ka aakhri din hoga
 Kya hua tera waada
Woh kasam, woh iraada
 Oh kehne waale mujhko farebi
Kaun farebi hai yeh bata
Woh jisne gham liya pyaar ki khaatir
Ya jisne pyaar ko bech diya
Nasha daulat ka aisa bhi kya
Ke tujhe kuch bhi yaad nahin
 Kya hua tera waada
Woh kasam, woh iraada
Bhoolega dil jis din tumhe
Woh din zindagi ka aakhri din hoga

Kya hua tera waada
Woh kasam woh irada